why i havent been on

[...Chris...]

I got arrested and i've been going through hell, my mom told the cops i punched her and choked her, when i didnt even do any of that. all i did was shove her considering she was pushing me when i was down on the floor trying to fix my computer, and she called the cops on me and than i ran away from home and went to my friends house where the cops showed up and arrested me and said it was a domestic menacing, they let me out the next morning after court and now my mom has a protection law thing on me where i cant curse scream/yell or threaten, which i never do to my mom except curse, now the next court date is december 13th and that determines if either me or my mom goes to jail. (theres more to the story but i dont think anyone would bother to read it or care, but i just needed a place to rant.)

[Sergio]

So you curse at your mom? That's fucking cheap. Oh well, different cultures I guess.

[...Chris...]

not at her, like i use it in context like, if i burn my finger i'll say fuck or something.

[devil]

I got arrested and i've been going through hell, my mom told the cops i punched her and choked her, when i didnt even do any of that. all i did was shove her considering she was pushing me when i was down on the floor trying to fix my computer, and she called the cops on me and than i ran away from home and went to my friends house where the cops showed up and arrested me and said it was a domestic menacing, they let me out the next morning after court and now my mom has a protection law thing on me where i cant curse scream/yell or threaten, which i never do to my mom except curse, now the next court date is december 13th and that determines if either me or my mom goes to jail. (theres more to the story but i dont think anyone would bother to read it or care, but i just needed a place to rant.)

Well your court date is Tom's birthday, so that should be good luck. I'd love to read more about your situation. It actually sounds interesting to read about to me and I'd be happy to offer you advicd if there is any you want.

[...Chris...]

okay, i'll type it all out tomorrow because i'm going to sleep now i have school in the morning thanks for taking the time to read it.

[devil]

Alright, I hope things start looking up for you.

[Grey]

and now my mom has a protection law thing on me where i cant curse scream/yell or threaten

That is like a parent's dream weapon.

Sorry your in a bad spot right now. I'd be interested in readin the whole story aswell.

[Sergio]

not at her, like i use it in context like, if i burn my finger i'll say fuck or something.
Oh I do that all the time too. :P

It's hard to judge without the whole story.

[Jay]

Definitely type out the rest, it sounds like quite the story to hear.

[jason_x21x]

eh, that sucks big time. id like to hear the rest of the story. no offense, but what ur mom did was a shit move from this part of the story. it'd be better to get the whole picture.

hope things get better

[...Chris...]

OKay here goes (BTW i've pretty much every detail possible so you can see what really happend, and not just my view, but views from other people) :

Well it started 11/7/07 (Wednesday) at night when i was going to move my computer upstairs, which i was happy about, and i called the guys from optimum online and told them to come to my house friday to put in the modem in my room. I asked my friend Drew to come over tomorrow (which would be a Thursday) after school and help me bring my computer upstairs. He said alright, and he'll meet me and we'll walk to my house. The next day i wake up late to school, already my mom begins to yell at me because she thinks i'm lazy because i don't have a job, when i've been looking for one all month. But she just wouldn't let me say a word in, so already my day was going bad. I go to school late, and its a regular day pretty much. So i wait after school for Drew with my friends Nick, his sister Catherine, and my girlfriend Amanda. We all walk home, (Nick is before my house he lives a block away from me. And he's pretty much my best friend and i've lived with him for about 2 months overall because my mom decides to take trips to Peru to visit family and friends). So its Drew, Amanda and I walking to my house now after we drop off Nick and Cathrine. AS SOON AS I WALK IN MY HOUSE, my mom begins to yell at me, at first i didn't know what about because she was screaming it, but she calmed down a bit and said that the phone line wasn't working, and her life revolves around our house phone because we don't have cell phones due to money issues. And so i say alright calm down i'll check it out, i go downstairs and i notice that the modem got unplugged, and i didn't unplug it because i was going to "today" (Thursday) and so i said, "Its unplugged, i don't know who did it." And my mom yells at me blaming me for it, thinking i was the one who did it, when i clearly didn't. Then i said "Maybe it was the people who live down here who did it." (Now we have Dominicans living at my house i don't know who they are but their friends of my mom, and i don't like them at all, they seem fishy, and not trustworthy. Also this family stayed at my house when my mom went to Peru last month, and they treated the house like shit, the womans daughter had sex in my moms bed, they drank alcohol in front my little brother, whos only 5, and smoked weed. I just don't like them at all, and you can see why.) So my mom says, "NO THEY DIDN'T DO SHIT NOW FIX IT! I'M BEING SERIOUS FIX IT! YOU'RE SOO LAZY I'M GOING TO SEND YOU BACK TO YOUR FATHERS! I CAN'T TAKE THIS ANYMORE!" (no exaggeration) Then storms upstairs, so i begin to unplug my computer and she later comes back in with more screaming and yelling except now i tell her to just leave me alone and let me take my computer upstairs. She now feels threatened because i said it was MY computer when i didn't really meant it to sound like it that, but meaning just let me take the computer upstairs, so now she's getting more mad, but now takes action. She begins to shove me while i'm down and telling me get out of the house, (i don't know why she's acting like this, when i was younger i use to get beat, and she would flip like this, but i feel like something snapped inside her head to make her react this way.) and i tell her to stop. But she doesn't, instead she shoves me where i tumble down, and so i get up, and this is when i had the modem cable in my hand and shoved her back. Now i think either my nail or the cable poked her, but now shes bleeding but it looks like a very small cut, like one after you pop a pimple. So now she flips out and begins to throw everything around and scream. Now Drew and Amanda are still at my house witnessing everything, and Amanda takes my brother and his friend to my brother's room. And now my mom just goes outside probably to vent some anger out, so i tell Drew and Amanda to leave through the backdoor, and go to Nick's. So once they left i took my moms purse and car keys and put them in my room, well the purse at least because i don't want my mom to take money out when she's pissed because she tends to use a lot of money. And i stashed her car keys in my pocket because i didn't know where else to put them (i was panicking). So my mom comes in after i bring all the computer stuff upstairs and she decides to take the computer tower and said "I'm going to break this fucking thing." and walked out. I walked out with her and told her to calm down and stop this fucking bullshit (my exact words). And she started talking about how i'm like my father and how i'm going to be fucked up when i'm older then i said only because of you and all this shit. Then she just said "ENOUGH!" and put the computer tower down, and walked away. So i took the tower inside and took all my computer stuff and put it in my room along with joel and his friend.

Alright this is pretty much half of what happend, i'll write the other half tomorrow.

[Sergio]

That sucks. Some mothers don't have any patience at all. Negativity leads to more bad things, and it looks like that's the case with your mom. I hope you and your mom work it all out, and tell her to be more positive about things.

[YAYAforBlink]

i read this like 10 minutes ago and didnt want to post since i'm pretty new here and you guys all know each other (as much as you can on a message board) but now i decided to.

That sucks man. luckily i have a good relationship with my mom, but a few of my friends mom's seem to have no patience much like yours and i just dont understand it. I'm sorry youre having a rough time and i hope things work out for you.

Also, i'm glad you decided to post the whole story and it seems like everyone else is too.

[jason_x21x]

ugh. that's really impatience and false accusing ignorance. at least you tried to calm her down instead of just lashing back. ill def. read the rest tomorrow.

again, hope things end up well

[Grey]

I really want to read the rest, I am drawn into it now..

Thats pretty crazy how such a shitty thing happened out of nothing. Its like she just exploded without their ever being a fuse. Its pretty weird. I have delt with the same thing with people and family members. I can't stand people who have such short tempers and go crazy over small things. I really dislike it when people exaggerate small problems too and let them excalate into a huge situation. And this is just my personal opinion but for your mom to let such a foul family like that live with you is a really poor parental desicion. If I were you I'd go live with your dad if this type of thing happens often. But I don't know anything about your dad.

[Sergio]

Wait so how do you have money issues, yet your mom takes trips to Peru? And I suggest you guys get cell phones and ditch the normal phone. In the end it might be cheaper (unless you use the phone line for the interwebz).

[...Chris...]

I'm going to explain it all tomorrow, and Grey you finally caught on, yes my "mother" is not a good parent. Not a good one at all, and to fill you in, my real dad is in south carolina, my brother has a different dad, my ex step dad. my mom has been divorced twice.

Edit:
Okay now i can type what happened next finally like after a week, i've just been busy with legal matters and shit but here goes.

Okay after i took my computer tower in my room, i walked outside in the backyard and noticed my mom was there. So i go up to her asking her to please calm down and settle this. She said okay and right as soon as she said okay, the cable guy from optimum comes in and my mom runs towards him crying, when right before that she was calm. so i just go inside the house (the backyard gate is open and so is the back of the house) and i had the front window opened so i can hear what she says. My mom tells the cable guy that i punched across the face and (this one seriously makes me laugh) that i SHOT HER, okay one. we don't have a gun, two where the mark to prove this? the worst thing she got was that scratch from the cable chord. But whatever. so the cable guy asks. "do you want me to call the cops?" my mom answers "yes please". once those words were said and done i panicked because i didn't know what to do. so first i got pissed because shes calling the cops on me so i punched the microwave which belongs to the people who live downstairs which made me feel kind of happy cause i dont like them. so i pretty much jet out my back door and hop my fence and run to Drew's house. He's there asking me what happened and i updated him and he told me Amanda is at Nick's house and i said okay lets go there. Nick and Catherine are updated on everything. And Nick told me his mom (Patty) is coming home soon so she'll know what to do. About an hour later my mom calls amanda and asks her where i was amanda said she doesn't know. then she called drew and asked the same thing. same response. Then 10 minutes pass and she calls nick and asks him do you know where chris is? nick says nope. then she says oh well the cops are looking for him and if you see him can you call me and tell me so i can tell the cops. nick stays quiet for a quick second then says, yeah i'm sure i'll do that and hangs up. now nick has been my best friend for about 3 years were practically brothers i lived with him for about 2 months in total and his family and me are pretty much closer than i am with my own family. so nick's dad comes home and talks with nick and everything and just couldn't comprehend that this is happening and just couldn't do anything about it because nick and drew were going to the Van Halen concert that night. Nicks mom comes home and first says alright lets just eat, amanda left already because she had work so it was me patty and catherine pretty much. after dinner she said, okay i only know of three options. 1 i call the cops telling them your here 2 i go over to your mothers house and talk to her and tell her you here or 3 you call her and let her know your here and that'll you be spending the night. i chose three because i didnt want patty to get harrassed by my mom. I call my mom and its about 6 30 she rambles about everything pretty much like how i'm a bad son and all that and finally says well i'm going to call the cops and let them know. about 45 minutes pass and no cops. me and catherine and patty were all joking about wow i guess she didnt call them, and patty says well i guess we can go to kohls now and get that rug catherine and catherine says why and she says well because chris is here and he'll help. it was pretty funny for the time being, then the cops ring the doorbell and tell patty that they had questions for me, and all they asked was if i had a fight with my mom, i replied yes. And then they said, well were going to have to take you to the precinct and take out the handcuffs, patty begins to cry and begs them to not take me and catherine walks in and sees that they were going to handcuff me and she begins to breakdown and cry and for me personally that family is like the only family i have and to hear and see them cry just made me tear, i tend to not make noise when i cry i don't know why i've had this habit since i was a youngbul and pretty much had never really made noise i just tear. so they take me away to the precinct (but they NEVER read my miranda rights which might help me out in court) where they took my fingerprints and picture and all that and i spent the night in jail from 7 30 pm. amanda and her aunt tried to bail me out but they didnt let them because of what happend. and they asked for my grandmas phone number and all that to get in contact with her i told them the number. oh and this was through messagning each other through notes from the cop which was funny for me i dont know why. the next day the cops take me to court which btw took like an hour even though the place was like 20 minutes away. and handcuffs arent confrotable especially when there tight and chained. i got into court and the judge pretty much believed every word of my mom, but let me go with a protection law, which gives my mom EVERY POWER she needs. and the case was considered a Domest Menacing in the third degree. and the next court date is dec. 13. and thats where i spent the weekend at my grandmas but got home for school. and now i'm currently living with my mom. we hardly talk to each other now, i have a curfew, and i'm working on my legal problems with my lawyer whos helping me out. my entire family is against her and all my mom has is the people who live downstairs. so right now i'm in a very bad situation and i just dont know how to deal with it. i pretty much told the truth the entire time i typed this, i dont know if you believe me but still i did not hit my mom because 1 shes my mom 2 i dont hit girls. yeah so thats really about it

[...Chris...]

wow i just realized thats a lot lol

[Sergio]

That sucks man. How old are you? I bet you can't wait till you're 18.

[Grey]

I don't like your mom and I am willing to bet she won't win one of these..

[...Chris...]

i'm 16 and i only have a year left of high school (i'm a junior now) but it just sucks, shes pretty much hitler right now. and yes grey she is a #1 mom lol

[jason_x21x]

*sigh. good luck to you with the next court date. i think you'll have a pretty good chance since your entire family is practically against her.

#1 MOM. lol

[...Chris...]

thanks, and i'm almost 100% positive that'll i'll win only because the cops didn't read me my rights, my mom lied about the entire thing and i can't miss the AVA shows. =)

[jason_x21x]

thanks, and i'm almost 100% positive that'll i'll win only because the cops didn't read me my rights, my mom lied about the entire thing

that's good


and i can't miss the AVA shows. =)

but of course, who would want to miss the shows lol

[watch1the8world2]

we should contact tom and have him play for you in jail =P

[...Chris...]

hahah in my opinion i think that would be better.

[Jay]

it would be a show for one, cuz i bet the people there don't listen to AVA

[VL]

Damn, thats so fucked up, hope everything turns out right for you,

the stuff some parents do..................

[BoxcarKid18244]

Your mom sounds like the one who needs weed, not those Dominicans. She needs to chill out and stop assuming shit. Don't worry dude, my mom is the say way though. I fight with her a lot over stupid shit.

[BoxcarKid18244]

thanks, and i'm almost 100% positive that'll i'll win only because the cops didn't read me my rights, my mom lied about the entire thing and i can't miss the AVA shows. =)

Damn right you can't miss that show. I'll be there though. Feb 15th, can't wait!

[Jenni_182J]

Unlucky. I hope this will eventually blow over

[I-Guns]

Wow I just read this whole thing, good luck, seriously. Like Jenni said, I hope this does blow over.

[...Chris...]

yeah but whats weird is just, me and her haven't really talked since that's happened. like i feel like i live alone its pretty weird. but i got a cell phone =)

[...Chris...]

my court date is this thursday and if i'm not on after that...well lets just say what me and grey do on sundays will be the same, but forced...

[Sergio]

Good luck. :(

[...Chris...]

thanks

[watch1the8world2]

i'll pray for you

[My Only Fear]

You better win.
Best of luck.

[blinkrocks121212]

Good luck dude

[...Chris...]

alright i guess some good luck happened because they rescheduled it to the 19th.

[Grey]

alright i guess some good luck happened because they rescheduled it to the 19th.

I had a hand in that..two to be exact. And lotion.

[...Chris...]

hahahah

[...Chris...]

okay its tomorrow, and i'm nervous as a kid with arthritis about to jerk off for the first time. and i really hope things turn out for the best, my lawyer thinks we'll win but i'm not too sure. =/

[My Only Fear]

okay its tomorrow, and i'm nervous as a kid with arthritis about to jerk off for the first time. and i really hope things turn out for the best, my lawyer thinks we'll win but i'm not too sure. =/

Good luck, it should turn out in your favor.

[Grey]

okay its tomorrow, and i'm nervous as a kid with arthritis about to jerk off for the first time. and i really hope things turn out for the best, my lawyer thinks we'll win but i'm not too sure. =/

Does it feel really weird living with your mom knowing she is taking you to court? Seems so messed up.

[...Chris...]

oh yeah, and to this day we have not had a FULL conversation, i can't even look at her the same anymore, and whats going to be awkward is her taking me to court (like a ride there) and she told me once i get out i have 2 weeks to get a job or she's not providing for me anymore, which is why i applied to everywhere this past week. and the school understands my situation and they just couldn't believe something like this could happen, i've lost many of my friends due to this as well, because their parents think i do drugs now ever since i got arrested so i just pretty much have been spending most my time with my girlfriend, and i've been working out to get some anger out somewhere instead of my guitar.

Edit: oh and the court case is on the internet as well here's the link if you want to see it-
http://iapps.courts.state.ny.us/webcrim_attorney/AttorneySearchCase#search_result

My last name is Silva and first name is Christopher

[My Only Fear]

Sounds like a pretty terrible experience. I hope you win and get all of your old friends back. As for supporting yourself, you have my best hopes.

[...Chris...]

alright well heres what happened:
I have another trial feb. 8 and were pretty much going to fight for me to not be guilty and have nothing on my record.